Suffering from “Log kya kahenge” syndrome? Tips to release you from 'what people say' burden and focus more on yourself

Such a causal line “log kya kahenge” (what will people say) and everyone here is or has spent their whole life in thought or fear in minds influenced by the society’s judgments which have taken a shape of syndrome these days.  There are many reasons why the life of people is still stuck on these three words; there is a cage these words have created in the minds and lives of generations and generations. 

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We as humans are trained since birth to seek validation, approval and inclusion to stay connected with our tribes and it is very difficult to completely change what you have spent your whole life thinking of. 

And who are these “log” /  “people”?

None but only those people from society, who have nothing good to do and bother only about giving opinions about others, good or bad it doesn’t matter to them but yes it affects you to that limit that it can even stop you from doing what you want to do leading to an unhappy life. 

It is impossible to just stop thinking about these three magical words which are so hard-wired in us but it can be done because it is just a matter of reprogramming your mind and you need to master your inner demons and take back the control of your subconscious thoughts.

Here are some significant lessons you need to understand to get rid of the burden of these three words –

⦁ People’s opinions are a reflection of who they are, not you

When people are judging you or passing their opinions on you, it is the reflection of their thoughts and their mentality and it has nothing to do with your life. People normally hate in others what they couldn’t have in their own life or something that they hate in themselves. Most of the time, it is not about you, but about them or some redirected aggression from their area of life. Teach yourself that what others think isn’t your reality.

 Learn to say NO, you can’t please everyone

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The next lesson leads to a path of understanding that no matter how much you try, you can’t keep everyone happy around you but surely there is one person for whom you are responsible and that’s YOU. 
The fear of rejection is eating people from inside and in the process of keeping everyone happy and in the good books of all we generally forget ourselves. Stop doing this nonsense.

⦁ Listen to your inner-self instead of people’s judgments

People judge because you let them do so! When we see people around us making cruel judgments we start doing the same with others. Here we need to understand that like others opinions shouldn’t affect you and to end this stupid cycle of judgments you need to take responsibility for your internal talk and when a pre-programmed negative judgment is rising inside you, it should be corrected there itself.

 Stop comparing; this is your life, only YOURS! 

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No one has lived what you have gone through; no one has walked in your shoes so stop comparing yourself to others.  There is no other You in this world, you don’t need to be anyone or anything but just yourself. And whenever a thought like “wow! What a beautiful life he/she is living, I wish I could be at his/her place” stop it right there and remind yourself that you are at your best and you don’t need any comparisons.

⦁ Reboot your brain for positive attitude

Being a negative thinker is much easier than having a positive attitude. When you sit and think or should I say overthink, you lead your way to negativity and distress. Catch yourself whenever you find yourself in negative thoughts and giving it overtime and redirect your mind and thoughts to something good in your life.
If it is actually wrong in your life, your gut feeling will let you know and if your gut says so, deal with it instead of leading yourself to a path of overthinking.

⦁ Focus more on what you actually need

Start focusing on yourself, your needs. Cut out the unwanted people and all the negativity from your life and start connecting with your authentic self. Work out on the things that you actually need to make yourself feel safe and complete.

Life is very short, According to the Union Ministry of Health and Family Welfare, the life expectancy of an average human is 70 years and think how much time you are left with to live your life to the fullest. 

You can’t control people’s opinions and what they say but you can control how you react to them. Don’t let others control your life, be your own master.

Remember one thing in life – 

कुछ तो लोग कहेंगे, लोगों का काम है कहना
छोडो, बेकार की बातों में कहीं बीत ना जाए रैना
कुछ तो लोग कहेंगे, लोगों का काम है कहना!
Stay happy 

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